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There can be many reasons for success. But if it is asked what is the most important factor for success, then the answer will be- confidence.
American psychologist Dr. Nathaniel Zinsser writes in his book ‘The Confident Mind’ that how a person will perform in his career, relationships and entire life depends most on his self-confidence.
Moreover, our confidence level also determines what opinion others will have about us and how much trust they will have in us. It is certain that confidence is the most important factor for any kind of success.
So today in the ‘Relationship’ column, we will try to understand the psychology of ‘confidence’. Along with this, we will also learn some tips to boost confidence.
After all, what is confidence?
According to a report by the American Psychological Association, self-confidence is a true and strong belief about oneself.
The thought that we can handle ‘any situation in life, good or bad’ reflects self-confidence. On the other hand, worrying about the future can be a sign of lack of self-confidence.
Comparing yourself with others reduces your confidence, compare yourself with yourself
Dr. Nathaniel Zinsser writes in his book that comparing oneself with others weakens self-confidence. However, comparison is a human nature. It cannot be completely eliminated.
But in some cases, people get inferiority complex by seeing someone around them or on social media and it weakens their self-confidence.
To avoid such a situation, comparing ourselves with ourselves can prove to be helpful. Instead of considering ourselves inferior because of how the people of the world are and what they are doing, we should think about where we were yesterday and where we are today. Have we made some positive changes in ourselves between yesterday and today or not? To what extent have we been able to achieve the goals we had set for ourselves.
Keep distance from negative people and environment, these are enemies of self-confidence
If you want to keep yourself prepared for any situation and also want to maintain your confidence, then you will have to distance yourself from people with negative thinking.
Wellness coach Stephanie Walker writes in her book ‘Revamp Your Health: Gain Strength and Confidence’ that a person who is surrounded by negative people and negative thoughts gradually loses confidence. He starts thinking negatively about himself. People’s negative thinking becomes their own thinking over time.
For confidence, it is necessary to forget the old things and start afresh
Often people lack confidence only when they have failed in some work before and they are afraid that they might fail again in their attempt. Old things prevent people from making a new beginning and their confidence level keeps decreasing.
To avoid such a situation, we will have to leave behind the bitter memories of failure and make a new beginning. While learning from failure, we will have to develop the thought that we will not make the same mistake this time as we did last time.
Why is self-confidence so important?
Why is self-confidence so important and if someone is self-confident, what effect will it have on his life? According to Dr. Nathaniel Zinsser, if a person is full of self-confidence, then these 4 major positive changes can come in his life-
- Better performance- If a person is full of confidence, it has a direct impact on his performance. Be it studies or career or any field, due to confidence his productivity is more than others.
- Healthy Relationship- If one has sufficient confidence, then apart from career and personal well-being, the person is in a better position in terms of relationships as well. A confident person is in a better position to understand and deal with his partner and their emotions.
- Excitement to do new things A confident person is able to make himself available in more places. He moves forward and accepts responsibilities and is ready to do new things. Because of this, he gets more opportunities in his career. On the other hand, due to lack of confidence, some people keep waiting for the right opportunity.
- Reliability- Self-confidence is also very important for better social relationships, social acceptance and credibility. If a person shows self-confidence on different occasions for a long time, then a feeling is formed about him in the home, office, society and relationships that this person can do this work, he can be trusted.
In simple terms, confidence is our belief in ourselves. Before proving ourselves in the crowd of the world and achieving success, it is important to prove ourselves right in our own eyes. This is not possible without self-confidence.
