2 days agoWriter: Mrityunjay
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That famous dialogue from the 1975 film ‘Deewar’, in which Amitabh Bachchan, playing a smuggler, tells his honest police officer brother – “Today I have a bungalow, property, car, bank balance, what do you have?”
Shashi Kapoor, playing the role of the brother, says, “I have a mother.” After this answer, Amitabh Bachchan remains silent.
The film compares good and evil. On one side is Amitabh Bachchan, who earns millions of rupees and enjoys all kinds of luxuries by smuggling gold. On the other side is his brother who lives a middle class life with honesty and peace.
But apart from this filmy story, new research says that if you remain a good person, you will get good relationships along with bungalow, property, car and bank balance. That is, by following the path of goodness, you can get mother’s love along with wealth.
Today in the relationship column, we will talk about good personality and behaviour. With the help of research and relationship coach, we will also learn some tips with the help of which we can improve our personality.
How to become a good person, is there any scale to measure goodness
First of all, understand that goodness is a subjective topic. It can mean different things to different people. The standards of goodness change when the country, culture and law change.
It is also not possible for a person to prove himself good in the eyes of the entire world. Even trying to do so is not considered right.
According to a report by ‘Very Well Mind’, there is no universally accepted standard to measure goodness. The best way to do this is to be good in your own eyes. Also, one can judge one’s personality on the basis of accepted moral and social values around one.
Now who doesn’t like to be called good? But there is some confusion about what needs to be done for this. Psychological rehabilitation specialist Kendra Cherry suggests these measures for this-
Do not hesitate in using sorry and thank you
Often people hesitate to apologize, thinking that they might look small in front of the other person. But this thinking is not right. Apologizing does not reduce anyone’s respect. The one who apologizes for his mistakes comes across as a responsible and good person.
International bestselling author Mark Recklau in his book ‘The Life Changing Power of Gratitude’ describes the habit of saying thank you to others as a life changing habit.
According to Mark, expressing gratitude towards some good thing brings a positive change in a person’s personality. On one hand, he is thanking others for good things and on the other hand, his mind is also prepared for these good habits. Due to which his personality keeps improving.
Criticize as much as you need to
Do not be overly critical of the world and people. Remove from your mind the idea that it is our responsibility to improve the world. Our first responsibility is towards ourselves.
You can give constructive criticism to others based on the depth of the relationship and responsibility. But even during this, it is very important to keep limits in mind.
Try to understand the world from other people’s perspective too
Everyone has their own opinion. To prove this opinion right, people even resort to arguments and fights. But there are some people who try to see and understand the world through the eyes of others. This habit of theirs makes them different from others.
Learn to forgive and move on
If we start getting offended over small things, start presenting explanations or arguments in front of people, then in such a situation, mental health, productivity, relationships and overall well-being are negatively affected.
To improve your personality and well-being, it becomes necessary to forgive some people in some cases, ignore some and let some go.
If you become good to others, you will benefit yourself
Mark Reklau has also written another international bestseller book ’30 Days – Change Your Habits’. According to him, the biggest benefit of helping others is to oneself. According to him, when a person shows goodness to others, then due to this, these positive changes can be seen in his life-
- The mood will improve- Showing kindness towards others releases many types of happy hormones. In such a situation, a person feels good about himself and others. His thinking towards the world becomes positive.
- Stress will go away- Helping someone else in difficult times can lighten your mind. According to research, people who show kindness to others are better at dealing with stress. Many avenues open up for them in difficult times.
- You will get confidence- Continuously walking on the path of goodness boosts confidence. People develop the notion that by walking on this path they will be able to overcome any challenge.
- Relationships will become stronger- The biggest benefit of walking with goodness in life is relationships. Goodness shown towards others strengthens personal, professional and social relationships. Such a person never feels lonely.
