12 minutes agoAuthor: Shelly Acharya
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“Love is not done, it happens,
The heart cannot be given away, it is lost….”
This line of a Hindi film song tells us that love has no age or limit. It can happen to anyone, anywhere and at any age. It is a feeling that does not come with an ‘age tag’. The feeling of love is beyond all the boundaries of age, caste, religion.
Love is the most beautiful feeling in life, which gives us happiness, satisfaction and fulfilment. It enriches life and gives us a chance to connect with others. It can happen at first sight or slowly over time. It can happen even at the age of 40 or 50. It is an important part of our life and we should accept it openly.
There are many people in the world who listened to their heart instead of worrying about society. From US Vice President Kamala Harris to Bollywood actress Neena Gupta, there are many big personalities who fell in love after the age of 40. Kamala Harris got married for the first time at the age of 19 and got divorced after about 15 years. Even after 45, Harris did not expect that she would be able to find love again at this age. She met her husband Douglas Emhoff on a blind date at the age of 49. Bollywood’s best actress Neena Gupta married Vivek Mehra, a chartered accountant from Delhi, at the age of 49 after dating him for 6 years.
Today Relationship In this column, we will talk about middle age dating. We will know how you can do this if you are single and looking for love even after being over 40. Also, what things you should keep in mind while dating.
what is middle age dating
Middle age dating means dating someone at the age of 40-50 or after that. At this stage of age, a person starts losing hope of love. Many times people feel lonely at the age of 40.
There are some people who like to stay with themselves after 40 and are not looking for love. But suddenly at some stage they find someone whom they like. Then they want to move forward in life with that person.
Well, it is said that there is no age limit in love. There are many people in the world who fell in love in old age and decided to spend their life with someone.
The definition of love changes after a certain age
Finding love in your 40s and 50s can seem like a challenge, but with the right person, it can be a beautiful feeling. You may have gone through a separation, breakup, or divorce in your life, which has filled your mind with fear or negativity.
The most positive aspect of dating after a certain age is that our definition of love matures with maturity of age. At the age of 20, we often confuse hormones with love. Passion, madness, insanity are more a function of age and the flow of hormones than a permanent, deep love.
But with time, there is a stability in it. Then for us, love also means words like help, compassion, kindness, care, simplicity, and not crazy madness in love.
How to start dating after 40
The search for love can begin anytime and anywhere. But a little understanding and caution is needed at every age. After a certain age, it is especially important to take care of some things. American relationship coaches Nancy Michael and Neil B. Wood have written a book on this – ‘Dating Success After 40’. In this book, they give some tips for successful dating after 40.
Find love, but not for the wrong reasons
You must have heard this dialogue that “The whole universe is involved in bringing you the person you love with all your heart.” I hope you will not believe such things after the age of 40. These are filmy things. It is understandable if 20 year olds believe this. But such romanticism at the age of 40 shows that you have only grown older, not matured.
Therefore, there is no harm in finding a partner after a certain age, but this search should not be for the wrong reasons. Never find a partner because-
- You are afraid of being alone.
- You feel disconnected from society after becoming single.
- In your eyes, being single is a taboo.
- You are not happy with yourself.
- You get influenced by looking at someone else.
- You are simply desperate to get a partner at any cost.
If even one of these reasons is true then you should stop looking for a partner and spend some time with yourself and try to make yourself mentally and emotionally strong.
Remember, any work done in haste and restlessness, in an attempt to escape from oneself, does not give good results. When you approach something beautiful with a calm mind, happiness, simplicity, straightforwardness and depth, then its result is also beautiful.
In their book, Nancy Michael and Neil B. Wood point out some mistakes that people often make while dating after 40. Therefore, it is very important to be careful about these mistakes.
