11 minutes agoAuthor: Shelly Acharya
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“Pain is reduced by sharing it,‘ You must have heard this saying. This is indeed true, but is everyone able to share their pain with others? Perhaps there are very few of us who are able to share their pain with others. There can be many personal reasons behind this.
When sadness comes in life, we feel lonely. We isolate ourselves from people. We don’t get the help and support we need. But did you know that talking to others can be an effective way to understand and deal with our emotions?
Sharing is a kind of therapy that can help you overcome painful emotions such as fear, childhood trauma, grief of losing someone, failure, etc. But you can share all this only with someone with whom you feel safe sharing your problems and pain.
But many of us don’t have such close friends or family. In such a situation, they share their pain with those who are ready to get help. You can find such people in meetings, support groups, special organizations and online forums. In these, you can find close and trusted people to whom you can talk. This can make you feel better.
So today’Relationship‘ In this column, we will talk about ‘pain sharing’ i.e. sharing our pain. Also, we will know with whom we can share our sorrows and pain. How can we identify such people.
It is in sorrow that we recognise our own people
When sorrow comes in life, not only does it test a person, but as soon as it comes, you also get to know who is your own and who is someone else. There is an old story in which once sorrow said to happiness that you are very lucky, people want to get you. Then happiness said, it is not me who is lucky but you because as soon as you come, people start remembering their loved ones. On the contrary, as soon as I enter someone’s life, people forget their own.
Therefore, the state of grief is such that you can identify your own people, who is your own and who is a stranger. Also, you can reduce your grief by sharing it with them.
According to a research published in the Association for Psychological Science, although sadness is negative and painful, it can actually give you positive results. It acts as a kind of ‘social glue’, which promotes solidarity within groups.
Psychologist and researcher Brock Bastian of the University of New South Wales in Australia says that according to a research, when we share our sorrows with people, it also helps us get closer to others. By doing this, we are also able to meet new people.
Empathy develops by sharing pain and suffering
Sharing pain develops empathy not only in us but also in the person to whom we are sharing our pain. ‘Empathy’ means putting yourself in the other person’s place and thinking, understanding and seeing the world from his point of view. When a person steps out of himself and tries to understand the feelings of others, he becomes empathetic towards them.
According to a report published in the ‘Journal of Internal Medicine’, people who practice empathy regularly have better relationships and personal well-being than those who do not. It helps in inner happiness and in removing any kind of depression.
‘Share Sorrow’ to Develop Empathy
To develop empathy, ‘share sorrow’ can be adopted. That is, sharing your sorrows and listening to and understanding the other person’s sorrows. That is, sharing both happiness and sorrow makes us feel good.
‘Psychological first aid’ is helpful in relieving sadness
To reduce your mental pain, psychiatrists advise that you should take the help of ‘Psychological First Aid’. That is, go and talk to someone close to you. Share your pain. This will also help you to get out of that difficult time and stress.
Don’t run away from your sorrows, have the courage to share them
We often suppress our thoughts and feelings out of fear. We fear being judged by others. Our deepest truths can be very difficult to handle and we find it easier to run from them rather than face them.
- At the same time, we may fear being rejected by other people. Deep inside, we are rejecting some parts of ourselves.
- We may be afraid to admit our mistakes.
- It takes courage to be honest with ourselves about our feelings and then share them with other people, especially when we’ve been hurt, judged, or betrayed.
- Sometimes when we share something about ourselves we face criticism and rejection.
- We may have been rejected by someone close to us and felt isolated. We may have been silenced or left alone by someone, which also makes it difficult to express ourselves.
- In such a situation, it is important to convince ourselves that we are stronger than our fear. This helps us to come out of that situation and share it with our loved ones.
Sharing pain makes us empowered and stronger
When we face our pain and share it, we empower and strengthen ourselves. Sharing our vulnerabilities is a great step towards trusting yourself, increasing your inner strength and moving forward with courage. But for sharing, it is also important to identify your people. That is, someone to whom you can talk and he can keep your words to himself.
