9 minutes agoAuthor: Shivakant Shukla
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This In this busy life, everyone is busy with themselves. Nobody has time. In such a situation the person has become a robot. It has become difficult to share my feelings with anyone. Perhaps this is the reason why anger and irritability are increasing among people and its effect is visible from office to home.
Washington-based multinational company Gallup releases a Global Emotional Survey report every year. According to the report of the year 2023, 54% people all over the world are experiencing loneliness and depression. According to Gallup’s report for the year 2021, 23% of the people in the world were victims of severe anger. If we look at the reports of the last several years, this number is continuously increasing.
But this emotion is not limited to anger only. This anger gradually creates tension and then later on creates conflict. Due to this, sometimes there are arguments and disputes at home with family members and sometimes with the boss or co-workers in the office.
But the thing to be seen seriously here is how fatal this conflict proves to be for a person’s mental-physical health as well as his career and family life.
so today ‘Relationship’ In the column we will tell you about it in detail, and will also know that-
- How does conflict cause harm?
- How can conflict be resolved?
How does conflict in relationships harm you?
If you have an argument with a family member at home, it will definitely trouble you mentally. This will have a negative impact on your work and family life. For example, if you argue with your partner, your whole day will be spoiled. Also, even after going to office, you will not be able to work wholeheartedly.
Ken Sand is a well-known life coach of America, who is famous as a conflict expert. He has almost 40 years of work on how to resolve conflicts. He has also written a book on this subject, ‘Resolving Everyday Conflict.’ In his book, Kane explains the dangers of conflict in great detail.
Why does conflict happen?
Ken Sand writes that the biggest reason for conflict is the clash of ego or ego. Whatever matter is disputed, it may not actually be a big deal, but it becomes big. That’s why Ken writes that to understand any conflict, we should ask ourselves some important questions-
how to resolve conflict
After getting to the bottom of the conflict and understanding it, the most important question now is how to resolve it. For this also, Ken Sands gives some important suggestions.
Look at the graphic below, then let’s talk about it in detail-
communicate directly
Instead of complaining to others, talk directly to the person with whom you have a problem. This will reduce the chances of estrangement between the two and your mind will also feel lighter by expressing your feelings. Talking directly is more effective than texting on the phone or complaining to everyone. However, you will have to control your language while talking.
choose the right time
Plan in advance and give yourself plenty of time for the conversation. For example, don’t start talking about the conflict while the other person is preparing dinner. Try to talk in a quiet place where both of you can discuss calmly. This will help both of them understand each other’s thoughts and feelings.
plan in advance
Think about what you want to say in advance. Explain to the other person what the problem is and how it affects you. Take out enough time for this also. Pre-planning will make negotiations easier.
avoid blaming
Resentment of the other person makes it difficult for him to listen to you and understand your concerns. Don’t blame the other person for everything or start the conversation with your opinion about what should be done.
Discuss the issue and listen to the other side
Don’t discuss the other person’s behavior. Instead, share your feelings. Give the other person a chance to present his/her side fully. Try to understand how the other person feels.
Show that you are listening
Even if you don’t agree with what is being said, let the other person know that you are listening and are happy that you are discussing the problem together.
don’t talk in vain
Once you start the conversation, get all the issues and feelings out in the open. Don’t skip the part that seems too ‘difficult’ to discuss. If all the issues are discussed deeply, a solution will definitely be found.
work on solutions
When you reach the topic of solution in the discussion, start working on it. Follow the promised changes in mutual behavior completely.
