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One change that has come in this fast paced life is that relationships are breaking down very fast. Divorce cases are also increasing rapidly all over the world.
In a country like India where divorce cases were almost nonexistent, the trend of meeting and breaking up has also come up. Breaking up of romantic relationships is not even considered big news now.
But why does this happen? Why do two people who are in love or are married get separated so easily?
After a long study, Sarah Algo, a psychology professor at North Carolina University in the US, has given some reasons for this. If these are avoided, the chances of a break-up in a relationship can be reduced to a great extent.
Today in the relationship column, we will know the main reasons for breaking of relationships.
The biggest reason for breaking up is ‘betrayal’
According to Sarah Algo, the biggest reason for the breakdown of romantic or marital relationships today is cheating or lack of commitment.
Cheating is not just physical, when one partner fails to live up to the other’s expectations, the other partner feels emotionally cheated. He feels that he did not get love in return for his love.
This feeling of emotional cheating weakens the relationship. Which can later become the reason for divorce or breakup.
Apart from this, there are some things, which if lacked, the relationship starts falling apart.
Physical touch and opportunities to laugh together are important
For the relationship to keep moving in the right direction in a balanced manner, it is important that the partners spend a lot of time together, and find opportunities to laugh and make others laugh together.
Sarah Algoe and her team spoke to hundreds of romantic partners around the world and studied their activities in detail.
In the result, they found that romantic couples who got opportunities to laugh together, their perspectives were more similar to each other. They had similar opinions on different issues. Laughing together on a topic gives them a feeling of agreement with each other. Both are able to see the world in the same way. As a result, their relationship also becomes stronger.
On the other hand, the relationship of those partners who had fewer opportunities to laugh with each other was found to be relatively weak.
It is impossible to maintain a relationship without team spirit
One of the major reasons for breaking of a relationship is the lack of team spirit between the partners. To give the right direction to any relationship and to make it last long, it is important to have some common goals in it.
Shared responsibilities, goals and dreams create a psychological impact in the minds of the partners, which subsequently leads to togetherness and team spirit.
They feel that we have to do this or that work together and reach the goal. And for this, it is important for the relationship to remain intact. Common responsibilities, goals and dreams give stability to the relationship and reduce boredom.
What is emotional immaturity, which is dangerous for relationships
A report of ‘Psychology Today’ states that when there is a difference between a person’s age and his ability to think and understand, that is, he is unable to show maturity as per his age, then such a situation is called emotional immaturity.
In such a situation, the person is unable to understand the feelings of his partner. He only looks at his short-term benefits. He tries to escape from the responsibilities of the relationship.
In a situation of emotional immaturity, a person is unable to decide where and how much emotion to show. He does not have control over his emotions. In such a situation, romantic or marital relationship gets into trouble.
So far we have talked about the reasons for breakup in a relationship. But it is not that the relationship will break down as soon as any one of these reasons comes to light. Initially, these symptoms become the cause of relationship fatigue. If the partners do not recover from this in time, then only there is a possibility of the relationship breaking down.
Keep these things in mind to strengthen your relationship
- Give priority to your partner in every situation.
- To strengthen the relationship, respect each other.
- For strong bonding, maintain good relations with your partner’s family also.
- Do not doubt unnecessarily in a relationship.
- Never break the trust of your loved ones.
- Don’t interrupt all the time.
- Try to spend quality time with your partner.
- Do not let there be a communication gap in the relationship. Talk to each other openly.
- Don’t just have your way, give others a chance to express their views too.
- To avoid fights due to financial reasons, do future planning.
- Express gratitude to each other for good deeds.
- Boost your partner’s morale. This gives new energy to the relationship.
- Don’t belittle your partner all the time, instead praise him/her.
- Do small things to make your partner happy.
- There are fights in every relationship, don’t escalate them, end them.
